What are your core values? Chances are, you may have not thought about this deeply or identified what they are for you.
A contributor of personal suffering is when we are not in line with our core values. For myself, one of my core values is spirituality - taking time to connect with my inner world. I am able to do this through meditation, reflection and Qi Gong practices. If I neglect my own core value of spirituality, it creates personal suffering.
Another example of someone’s core value could be the importance of being patient with others. What can happen to a person who holds this core value, is that when they live a busy life with work, social life, kids, etc, they become frustrated and not so patient anymore.
In this scenario, unless this person has done some inner refection on their own core values and identified that being patient is one them, they are going to create personal suffering. This person could start the process of realignment with their core value by slowing down their life, by taking time out for themselves. They could engage in things like meditation, walking, and reading. All of these practices encourage the person to create self-patience first, which in return creates the patience needed for all others in their life. It also provides a growth opportunity to realign with their core value.
Part of the work I do is assisting clients to tap into what their own cores values are. When a client really understands their own inner core value system, this can give great insight into areas of life that need attention.